When there’s lack of communication…
As cliché as it may sound, if there’s one thing I take away from the film Batman vs Superman: The Dawn of Justice it’s that communication certainly matters. The biggest misunderstandings are frequently a result of our keenness to rumor and proclivity to hang on to first impressions.
In a perfect world, heroes wouldn’t take up arms against each other. But the world is not perfect and we are prone to error. And Batman, in his prejudice against Superman, failed to listen.
When there’s miscommunication…
In July 1945, allied leaders meeting in Potsdam demanded the unconditional surrender of the Japanese armed forces and the only alternative offered to Japan was «prompt and utter destruction». Japanese Minister Kantaro Suzuki was asked about his reaction to the Potsdam Declaration and Suzuki apparently replied «mosukatsu». Depending on context, mosukatsu has different meanings. Unfortunately the word was translated as meaning «not worthy of comment» and the Allies took it as grave insult. We all know how this ended – Fat Man and Little Boy were dropped as a consequence in Nagasaki and Hiroshima.
Prime Minister Suzuki might have actually meant «no comment».
The A-bomb dome standing by the Motoyasu River in modern Hiroshima for 70 years now.
Photo: S. Hänggi
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Even if we think we are already communicating, we could still be misunderstood. What more if we’re not?
I am not a communications expert but I care deeply about TWO things:
First, communication is a two-way process – we talk and we listen. Otherwise it’s a monologue. The amount of information being delivered is not necessarily directly proportional to the number of words per minute.
Second, I think it’s fair to give someone the benefit of doubt on top of all that’s being said. We love to pass judgements quickly based on hearsays and first impressions.
Celeste Headlee, a daily news/talk show host on Georgia Public Broadcasting, mentioned in her 2015 TED talk that an average person can speak about 225 words per minute but can listen at up to 500 words per minute. This means that our mind can fill in those other 275 words! And if we are distracted by too much non-sensical information, we are likely to arrive at false conclusion.
When we give someone the benefit of doubt – that’s when we let our brains do the talking.
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I am currently in a training program where we practice active listening each day, and I’m so grateful for the experience. It’s so different than the normal everyday communication we have grown accustom to. And I agree- innocent until proven guilty- giving someone the benefit of the doubt can lead to a totally different outcome than being judgmental before someone has even completed what they mean to say. Thanks for your thoughts Steph!